Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

Signs Of An Abusive Relationship – Signs of an abusive partner can manifest itself in verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. Usually, an abusive partner will have partake in a combination of abuse types. An abusive partner may have been abused in the past, which makes them the way they are. Here are some signs to look for to see if you are in an abusive relationship:

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Disrespectful – If he shows a complete lack of respect for other women in his life, like his mother or sisters, this is a red flag. You can tell a lot about how a person will be in a relationship by the way they treat their mother.

Does not “Walk the Walk” - Your partner may not keep his words or he breaks his promises. He may say it will never happen again or say he’ll change, but he never does.

Punishment – A partner who is emotionally abusive may punish you when he does not get his way. What might he do? He may be silent with you, withhold sex, perhaps be emotionally unavailable and distant, or criticize you.

Mood Swings – An abusive partner may go from aggressive to loving and apologetic after abusing you.

Manipulative – He doesn’t take responsibility for himself and instead places the blame on you. He victimizes himself, making you feel guilty for his shortcomings.

Jealousy – In a relationship, some jealously is normal, but sometimes it can go over the top. An abusive person becomes jealous of other people in your life, like your friends and family. He may try to isolate you from them. He may be always accusing you of things without cause and is over possessive of you.

Control – Someone who is abusive may want to control every aspect of the relationship. With an abusive partner, there is no compromise, its either “my way or the highway” for him. An abusive partner will show anger if he senses any signs of strength or independence.

Not willing to seek help – An abusive partner may see everything as normal and will not want to seek help. He may not want to admit that he is at fault and everything that is happening is outside his control – things are just the way they are and it won’t change.

If you noticed, abusive men will not take responsibility for their actions. They will place the blame and guilt on their partners for making them the way they are while continuing to be abusive. Things like drugs and alcohol encourage more abusive behavior. Remember that an abusive relationship, its not your fault and is something your partner has to deal with. With that said, its important to understand that although you can influence and guide change in a person, a person will only change when they want to. If your partner does not want to seek help, you need to protect yourself from being further degraded by leaving. This is hard step, since you may not know where to turn next, but if you stay with your  partner you are only telling him that it is alright for you to be abused. Try calling friends and family to ask for help or if they know of anyone who can lend a helping hand. Your  partner may try to contact you, asking forgiveness and promising to change, but unless you’ve talked to a counselor and your partner has taken active steps in correcting his behavior, do not go back.