How to Dump your Girlfriend

How to Dump your Girlfriend – When it comes to tough times in your relationship, its important to try to work them through. Sometimes, problems in your relationship are not reconcilable, in which case its time to break up. Breaking up with someone can be tough, but it should be done if being together is too painful and you know its the right thing to do. Here is some advice to get you through this tough time:

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There is no easy way in telling someone you want to end a relationship with them. Most people do not want to hurt anyone, but there is no way around this. All you can do is keep the pain to a minimum. Think of it like getting a piece of hair pulled. If you pluck the hair quickly, it will hurt slightly. However, if you try to pull out slowly, it will hurt a lot more.

If you are going to break up with a person, be sure to have the decency of doing it in private. Don’t break up with her when shes with her friends, nor should you do it over the phone, email, text, or instant message; you should give the person the respect she deserves.

Breakups are painful, but its important to keep pain at minimum. With that said, try not to use cliches (i.e. its not you, its me). Put the blame on why its not working on the relationship itself (i.e. this doesn’t seem like a right fit). Also, talk about your reasons and be honest about it, but at the same time be sensitive. You don’t want to tell them you never loved them, which would be honest, but not sensitive. Be understanding of what they are going through and what they are feeling. Empathize but be firm in your decision.

Give them space to feel angry and hurt, since its normal to feel these things. Don’t tell them them that its bad to feel hurt and angry, they will get over it. Again, although they may feel angry and hurt, be firm.

There is no joy or pride in breaking up, so don’t come off like that. Remember to be compassionate, but avoid being intimate.

After everything is said, let them decide when the conversation is over. This may take a while.

After a break up, a number of things may happen. Your ex may start acting weird, like drunk dialing your phone at 4AM, showing up at your place, etc. Empathize if you can, but if it gets to be much, it may be better to just turn off your phone. Your ex may try to make you jealous or try to hurt you, like sleeping with other people, revealing secrets about you to others, etc. This is an immature, but common response to heartbreak. If it gets to this point, its better to just cut ties completely. That means no communication with your ex whatsoever. You should not show that any of the things that they had done has effected you.

How a person reacts to a break up varies. Some people eventually get over it in a matter of months, others it takes more time, like years. Breakups are difficult to go through, but you can make pain associated with this transition at minimum by being understanding, sensitive, and firm.